Thursday, June 23, 2011

Be selective: surround yourself with the best N-of-8 people

Make a list of the top 8 people you spend most of your time with:  colleagues, friends, family members, and members of your religious group etc.

Place a (+) sign next to those that  are always positive and energizing; optimistic and uplifting.

Put a (-) sign next to those who are toxic, cynical and judgmental; always blaming life or others for their circumstances.

This exercise might lead to shocking discoveries, especially when you see a minus sign next to someone close to you. Mike Muddock, a renowned speaker and author says, “Pay any price to stay in the presence of extraordinary people.”

Flip the statement around and it will be “pay any price to avoid losers, people going nowhere.” Find a way of breaking close ties with toxic people and surround yourself with successful, like minded people, going your way.

There are two types of people: anchors and motors. You want to lose the anchors and get with the motors because the motors are going somewhere…the anchors will drag you down.


Fabian said...

Completely true! However, one must also become a motor so that you are attractive to other motors. Great blog!

Anonymous said...

Great advice Mark. I sent the link off to each of my kids!